Leslie M.B.

The Wake-Up Call

One day, my neighbor and I sat down and had a real conversation—one of those raw, honest moments where you admit the things you usually keep bottled up. We had been giving too much, tolerating too much, being TOO NICE… and for what?

That’s when she told me something her mother once said:

Good girls don’t really win in life… it’s the bad ones who do.

At first, I wanted to reject that idea. But then I started paying attention to the world around me. And I realized she was right.

Because when you really look at the women who are winning, the ones who have power, confidence, money, and respect—they aren’t the ones who played small, kept quiet, or tolerated less. They are the ones who:

✅ Set boundaries and don’t apologize for it.

✅ Say NO without guilt or over-explaining.

✅ Put themselves first, without waiting for permission.

✅ Demand what they want, instead of hoping someone offers it to them.

And that’s when I knew… I had to stop being “nice” and start being powerful.

The Myth of the ‘Nice Girl’

From childhood, women are trained to be nice. We’re told to be:

• Polite.

• Accommodating.

• Forgiving.

• Understanding.

We’re taught that if we just play by the rules, if we’re kind and humble, everything will fall into place.

But let me ask you—has it?

Because here’s the hard truth: Nice girls don’t get rewarded. They get used.

They get:

❌ Overlooked at work.

❌ Disrespected in relationships.

❌ Taken for granted by friends.

Nice girls give and give… while everyone else takes.

The Women Who Are Winning – What They Do Differently

If you want to stop getting the bare minimum, stop letting your niceness be your only personality trait. The women who GET everything they want in life understand this:

🔥 They set boundaries. They say NO and don’t explain.

🔥 They walk away. If someone doesn’t value them, they don’t beg.

🔥 They own their confidence. They speak up, take space, and demand more.

🔥 They put themselves first. They know that they can’t pour into others from an empty cup.

The Turning Point – What Happens When You Stop Being Nice

I’ve lived this personally. I’ve seen what happens when you stop apologizing for existing.

In my marriage, I spent so much time being understanding, patient, low-maintenance—and what did I get? The more I gave, the less I got.

But the moment I started setting boundaries and refusing to accept less? Everything changed.

And when it came to friendships, I used to assume that if I was always there for people, they would be there for me. But let me tell you something:

🚨 People don’t respect what they don’t have to work for. 🚨

The moment I started pulling back my energy, setting higher standards, and choosing silence instead of explaining myself, I saw who was REALLY in my corner.

And let me tell you: Silence is POWER.

Biblical Wisdom – Even Jesus Had Boundaries

If you’re struggling to step into this power, let me remind you even Jesus had boundaries.

📖 Philippians 4:13 – “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

💡 Key Takeaway: You were NOT called to play small.

📖 Matthew 5:14 – “You are the light of the world.”

💡 Key Takeaway: How can you shine when you’re constantly dimming yourself?

📖 Exodus 14:14 – “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.”

💡 Key Takeaway: Silence is sometimes the most powerful response.

How to Stop Being ‘Too Nice’ & Start Winning

1️⃣ Start Saying ‘No’ Without Explaining Yourself – No is a full sentence.

2️⃣ Check Disrespect Immediately – The first time they do it, correct them or cut them off.

3️⃣ Stop Chasing Validation – Their opinions don’t pay your bills.

4️⃣ Prioritize Yourself for Once – Stop pouring into empty cups.

5️⃣ Own Your Presence – Walk into every room like you BELONG there.

Final Words – Your Challenge Today

I want you to ask yourself:

❓ Where has being nice gotten me?

❓ What’s the ONE thing I need to change today?

Because the truth is… if you don’t start demanding more, you’ll keep getting the bare minimum.

🔥 Watch the full video here: https://youtu.be/VYDupnGLwHI?si=qreXu5DT07PYPclk

💬 Comment below: What’s the FIRST step you’ll take to stop being ‘too nice’?

Love, Leslie💋